will get clarity around each, and most importantly, you will
be coached on how you can get UNstuck from each!
you will dig deeper into the 5 Challenge Areas that you looked
at when you completed the “Sexless Marriage
you aren’t addressing the right problems,
you’re wasting your time and wrecking your relationship.
then, you will discover what I have come to believe is the
single biggest issue facing you.
will look at how mice, rats, dogs, and people learn to give
up on copulation.
you think that the lessons learned from this incredibly important
research doesn’t fit you and your relationship, then
you might well be suffering from exactly the same phenomenon
the research has identified!
was a long sentence, so let me put it another way.
research has found a problem that renders mice, rats, dogs,
and people helpless.
you feel helpless?
I’ll bet you are suffering from this problem.
good news is, it can be reversed!
you rightly ask.
show you the proven techniques that have helped thousands
to get UNstuck from this debilitating problem. The data on
the effectiveness of these techniques is so overwhelming,
that I am confident you will get UNstuck once you apply them
to your own life and relationship.
confident, I guarantee the results and I'll even give all
your money back if you're not satisfied!
the time you are done with Step 3, here’s what will
be happening to you.
You will be thinking more clearly about the specific strengths
you have as a human being.
confidence and pride will be increasing.
will have 7 clear visions of the life you want to create for
your partner will have the same.
will have pinpointed the area where you are challenged in
your sexual relationship with your partner.
will have identified and gotten UNstuck from the Life-Sucking
Emotional Symptoms that have been dragging you down.
And you will no longer be helplessly stuck!
that’s not all!
aren’t even halfway into the 8-Steps!
At this point, you would probably be settling for almost any
sex at all. That is understandable. A thirsty person stuck
in the desert would settle for stale and dirty water over
none at all.
in the vision you created in Step 1, you expressed your desire
for something more.
is a big difference between getting laid,
and making love.
4 is about creating intimacy between the two of you.
is the time to work on a 55-page eCourse that has been developed
specifically to help you to get to know yourself better, and
be yourself more fully.
you have heard of the works of Myers and Briggs? They pioneered
in the area of temperament. By completing this unique eCourse
you will identify your temperament, and your partner’s.
will also identify your preferred style of relating, and your
is this important?” you ask.
enjoy being with people who know
and accept us.
you believe your partner knows and accepts you?
are that you would respond, “No, not really.”
is the solution to that problem. This simple but thorough
eCourse will help you to identify your temperament and your
partner’s – as well as the preferred natural style
you each have for relating intimately.
you want to “get laid”
or would you prefer to “make love?”
is a HUGE difference, and here is where you will discover
you will find the process insightful, if not even fun, to
you kidding? My partner won’t work with me on any eCourse!
What am I supposed to do?”
I anticipated that.
your partner is willing to enter into this process with you,
your chances of success go up immeasurably. If your
partner refuses to enter into this process, then you are going
to have to confront that issue. I’ll give you 10 tips
on how to make that happen.
to run deeper.
are two key skills that you will have to learn in Step 5.
The first is How to Argue With Yourself,
and the second is How to Argue With Your Partner.
Nobel Art of Argument
of us think about arguing as a bad thing. But suppose you
thought differently about arguing? Suppose you actually developed
an appreciation for the “Noble Art of Argument?”
you think about it, isn’t your very life an argument
for the principles you believe in, the delights you enjoy,
the calling you have, the vision you want to realize, and
the marriage you want?
you truly want a good, full, and meaningful life then it is
critically important that you learn to argue with the Automatic
Negative Thoughts (the ANTs) that creep in and defeat you.
know what I am talking about – the tendency you have
to “catastrophize” the challenges that confront
you. You have to develop the ability to argue “in your
own head” so that those Automatic Negative Thoughts
don’t knock you down!
most important arguments you will have will be the one you
have in your own mind.
you going to let the ANTs define you, or are you going to
define yourself according to your strengths?
are going to argue with yourself until your own “self-talk”
wins! You will consciously argue with those ANTs until your
conscious mind prevails.
second most important arguments will be
with your partner.
of getting stuck in all of those unsolvable arguments that
leave you both feeling rejected, you will learn some of the
very fundamental rules about when to argue, how to argue,
and how to keep your arguments healthy.
research on effective arguing is consistently clear about
the fundamental rules for arguing well. You might just as
well know what they are so you can avoid the devastation that
occurs when arguments rip at the very soul of a relationship.
is too detailed to go into right now, but you will learn the
ABCDE model for arguing with yourself, and with your partner.
to make sure you learn this tested model well, you will be
given numerous illustrations of how this proven model can
be applied to your sexless relationship.
of your sexless marriage… you will be given specific
tips on how to effectively apply the ABCDE model, a model
that has been University developed and researched… to
your sexless marriage.
more confusion about how to effectively argue!
is where change really starts to pick up speed. You will be
able to get yourself UNstuck with the art of arguing with
yourself about the Automatic Negative Thoughts that defeat
you will be able to engage your partner more effectively with
a twist on the same techniques.
order to bolster your effectiveness at arguing with yourself,
you will need solid facts.
help you with the facts, I am including my eBook, Hopeful
Solutions for Your Sexless Marriage, a $19.99
value… for FREE. It is so much easier to argue well
when you are loaded with the facts.
about this in a moment.
Have you noticed that we are NOT particularly focusing on
anything that is negative?
both have taken enough abuse around your sexless marriage
already. There just isn’t much use in beating either
of you up anymore.
what you are looking for is good – solid – practical
part of that advice has to be about what NOT TO DO!
here, in Step 6, I’m going to give you the following:
list of 14 Really Silly and Foolish Steps you
DON’T WANT TO TAKE!
I’ll bet you have already tried some of these. As soon
as you look at this list you will say, “Ouch! That’s
when you find yourself in this list you will also know that
you are VERY NORMAL!
I’m trying to help you to be OPTIMAL!
you are doing any of these “Really Silly and Foolish”
behaviors, then you are making yourself STUCK!
of the thoughts you have been entertaining, difficult as it
might be to admit, is this:
I get a divorce?”
can waste a lot of time wondering about whether or not to
get a divorce. Circular arguments will abound and your mind
will spin from one side to the other. It all can be enormously
STEP 7 you will find that I’ve collated some material
for you that is bound to be helpful if you are contemplating
end relationships in four ways; there is a legal divorce,
a physical divorce, a family divorce and an emotional divorce.
I’ll offer you something about each.
when will I know if I should get a divorce?”
I’ve got some incredibly practical steps for you to
consider when it comes to this incredibly important decision.
always amazes me that almost anyone who struggles with whether
or not to divorce, will spend more energy on that decision
than they spent on the original decision to marry!
what if I want to save my marriage?”
you should do everything in your power to save your marriage!
why I am including, believe it or not, my eBook You
Can Save Your Marriage. It is yours for FREE.
who are well married are happier. We know this is a fact.
If there is anything you can do to save your marriage, then
you owe it to yourself, your partner, your children (if you
have any), and to everyone that cares for you to give it your
is your best shot?
will know once you have read You Can Save Your
what if my partner won’t work with me, or what if I
just can’t keep going?”
the ship is going down, and you don’t want to drown…
swim to shore!
will be given some specific advice on how to keep yourself
from drowning in the mess of a divorce. That doesn’t
mean the divorce won’t happen. After all, in most communities
it only takes one person to get a divorce.
it does mean is that you can survive it all, and move on with
will be given positive and affirming advice on
to keep yourself from being stuck because of a wanted, or
STEP 8 the subject is “How to maintain an optimum life
no matter what!”
are some aids for thinking about a more optimum life. I am
a practitioner of Positive Psychology, and as such, have developed
some tools and resources for the people I work with in therapy.
I am sharing some of those with you now.
not live an Optimal Life!?
your sexual relationship is unstuck and you are moving closer
more often, then a few tips will help you to keep going.
traditional Psychology tends to be about helping people to
move from “abnormal” to “normal,”
Positive Psychology helps people move from “normal”
you stay married and stuck sexually, or married and enjoying
sex more, or even if you decide to split up… you will
be introduced to some practical tips on how you can
maintain more optimism and happiness in your life.
no matter the outcome, you can have a good, full,
and meaningful life.
again, you will want to avail yourself of the advice you will
find in my two eBooks, You Can Save Your Marriage,
and Hopeful Solutions for Your Sexless Marriage.
The latter is intended to give you two some solid advice,
based on years of experience, about how you can grow your
sexual relationship into something more pleasurable and mature.
8 Step Program, as I have said, is aimed
at helping you to get UNstuck. Hopeful Solutions
for Your Sexless Marriage is about moving in
the right direction once you are UNstuck.
Without positive progress, the risk of slipping back is greater,
and I know you don’t want that to happen!
there you have it - A Summary of the Program.